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Gordon Brown's Gillian Duffy Gaff - Body Language PDF Print E-mail
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28th April 2010 - Time: 15:03

Gordon Brown today has made a major gaff not just from his comments but also if you look at the news footage when he is answering Gillian Duffy's question even before calling her  "A bigotted woman", he was using a wagging finger up and down symbolically beating down her questions and arguments, which he then he changed to a clenched fist with his thumb over the top again showing dominance and force.

Later he appeared on the BBC radio with Jeremy Vine who confronted him and played it back while the PM was made him listen in full view of the studio camera, whilst listening his body and shoulders were slumped, his left hand covering his eyes, breathing heavily and then using a very low tone of voice, a completely crumpled man at this point.

After the media interest he then went to Gillian Duffy's home to apologies in person and appeared on her doorstep all smiles, which did look genuine for the most part, a relieved man that he managed to placate her somewhat and hopefully quosh the immense media circus surrounding him right now.

 
Election Debate and Political Body Language PDF Print E-mail
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Tonight sees the first of three historic live debates between the three main party leaders Gordon Brown, David Cameron and Nick Clegg. 

All week I've been doing interviews as to what we should be looking for in the body language of the three as they perform tonight so here is your - Rough Guide to Political Body Language.

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Body Language and Attracting Women PDF Print E-mail
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I'm going to ask you to guess what the answer is to this question:

"What's the one thing guys want to learn most...when it comes to meeting women?"

What do you think it is?

What do you think that guys ask me more than just about ANYTHING?

Of course... it's "What do I SAY?"

Guys want to know the "magic words" that will allow them to "sneak up" and start conversations with women without seeming like they're "coming on to her".

Well, I've always got some BAD NEWS for guys who ask me this question.

The bad news is that the WORDS you use aren't important... if you don't FIRST understand BODY LANGUAGE.

"Why's That?" they ask.

Simple, really.

A woman makes DOZENS of different INSTANT and UNCONSCIOUS assumptions about you within the first SECONDS that she meets you.

And if you don't understand how to communicate with your BODY... and how to trigger a woman's ATTRACTION... WITHOUT words... then no amount of cute "pick up lines" will help you.

On the other hand, if you DO get and understand Body Language, then almost ANY words will work. Really.

And I want YOU to learn how to use Body Language to attract women...

As I've already told you, my new Body Language CD/DVD program is the ultimate education on this
subject, and I'm starting to get a lot of great feedback on the program... 
Right now, as you're reading these words, there are guys learning how to use their BODY LANGUAGE to attract women.

And they're doing it in the easiest, lowest-hassle, most complete way that's ever been created... by watching my "Body Language For
Success With Women And Dating" DVD program.

Shouldn't YOU be watching this program right now and learning these secrets?

I thought so.

I'd like to send you a copy AT MY RISK.

I'm serious.

Try it out for a MONTH. If it's not getting you IMMEDIATE success, then just send it back and pay me nothing.

I would have to be INSANE to offer you a guarantee like this unless I was POSITIVE that you'd get massive value from this program.

And you will. I promise.

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Micro and Macro Expressions PDF Print E-mail
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Macroexpressions last from ½ second to 4 seconds: we see them in our daily interactions with people all of the time.

Microexpressions last less than ½ second: they occur when people are consciously or unconsciously trying to conceal or repress what they are feeling. Most people report that they don’t see microexpressions, however research has shown that people can be taught to spot these relatively easily: with training, in about an hour.

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Subtle expressions are associated with the intensity of the emotion, not the time the emotion moves on and off the face. Subtle expressions occur when a person is just starting to feel an emotion, or when their emotional response to a situation, another person or the environment around them is of low intensity. Recently published research showed a high correlation between recognizing subtle expressions and being able to detect deceit.

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Why Focus on the Face?

Nonverbal behavior is a major component of communication, and facial expressions of emotion are the most important and complex signal system humans have.

Research has documented the existence of seven universally expressed and recognized facial expressions of emotion (joy, sadness, fear, surprise, anger, contempt and disgust). The impact of this finding is immense: all people – regardless of race, culture, ethnicity, age, gender or religion – express these emotions in the face in exactly the same ways.

Reading signs of emotion in the form of macroexpressions, microexpressions and subtle expressions is an important skill for effective communication. The ability to accurately read emotions in others is extremely important to establishing relationships, building rapport, eliciting information, negotiation and many other purposes.

This skill has an immediate and powerful benefit for those who conduct interviews or interrogations, are involved in business transactions, perform law enforcement or security, provide health care or participate in the legal system.
Facial Expression Attributes, Type and DescriptionAttribute Type Description
Speed Macroexpressions These are emotional expressions that occur in normal discourse. When a person has an emotion and there’s no reason for the person to conceal his or her feelings, expressions go on and off the face between 0.5 and 4-5 seconds.
Speed Microexpressions These are signs of concealed emotions. They are very rapid, occurring less than 0.5 seconds, and often for 1/5th or even 1/15th of a second.
Signal Clarity Full Face These are expressions that involve all of the facial muscles associated with the prototypical, full-face configurations, often involving the areas above the brows, the eyes and cheeks, and the lower face.
Partial Expressions These are expressions that involve components of full-face expressions, being shown ONLY in the brows, or eyes and cheeks, or lower face.
Angle Frontal You see the whole face from the front.
Angle ¾ You see the face from the front at a 45-degree angle.
Angle Profile You see the face from the side at a 90 degree angle
Intensity Strong These are moderate to high intensity expressions, corresponding to FACS intensity codes C through E
Intensity Subtle These are low intensity expressions that appear very slightly, corresponding to FACS intensity codes A and B
Distance Close These are images sizes that correspond to social interactions between intimate or familiar interactants
Distance Medium These are image sizes that correspond to social interactions among acquaintances and strangers
Distance Far These are image sizes that correspond to viewing faces in public or at a distance

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How Can Men and Women Handle These Differences? PDF Print E-mail
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So How Can Men and Women Handle These Differences?

Men and women are from different planets, or so we’re told. Anytime the discussion turns to gender differences, no matter what the topic, it’s easy to fall into old stereotypes and old assumptions about men and women. The truth is that when it comes to body language there are indeed differences between the genders. This does not mean one gender is inherently “better” or “worse” than the other is; it just means they have different tendencies and characteristics.

What Are The Differences Between Men and Women?
Body language differences between men and woman show up in two primary ways. There are differences in behaviours as well as differences in the purpose behind their behaviours. Some of these differences are thanks to nature; that is, they are “pre-programmed” into each gender. Others, however, are learned through experience and can differ greatly from one culture to another.


For instance, women are generally more likely to display nurturing behaviours, show emotions, and let their feelings come through. Men, on the other hand, are generally more likely to display behaviours of power, dominance, and assertiveness. In the modern world, however, these general tendencies are subject to far more variability than ever before. This is due to increased acceptance and comfort with each gender displaying non-typical body language in many different situations.


Despite this increase in freedom to display non-typical body language, there are still some general differences between men and women. The two most common are:
Differences in receiving messages – Women tend to be better at receiving body language messages, especially when it comes to noticing inconsistencies between body language and verbal language.
Differences in sending messages – Men tend to be less skilled at using subtle body language to influence communication without seeming to be doing so at all.
There are actual physical reasons for these differences. For example, women process messages using up to 16 different parts of their brain at once, while men process messages using about six or 7 different parts of their brain at once. Neither is better than the other is, but each processing pattern does influence the receiving and sending of messages based on gender.


So How Can Men and Women Handle These Differences?
As with most things divided up along gender lines, the body language differences between men and women are best used as general guidelines. They are a starting point, if you will, for engaging in interactions and going through the process of establishing rapport, building trust, and the like. They are only a starting point, however, because interpreting and understanding body language requires a great deal of observation and simply getting to know the characteristics of the other person.

Greater awareness and understanding of differences can also help a great deal in preventing different interpretations of body language or, when those different interpretations occur, in resolving potential conflicts and misunderstandings. The key is to be respectful of differences and not belittle or judge either gender based on body language issues. When both men and women make a point of sharing each other’s perspectives and learning from those differences, both genders learn to better interpret and understand the non-verbal communication of the other.

Reproduced courtesy of www.BodyLanguageExpert.co.uk - how to read and use body language

 
How to Communicate With The Body Language PDF Print E-mail
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How to Communicate With Body Language

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It is often said that in face-to-face communications, the words we speak actually account for less than 10% of the message that we convey, while body language accounts for more than half of our message (our tone of voice supposedly communicates the rest). Body language is important, and if your words say one thing but your body says another, the person you are speaking to is more likely to believe the message your body is communicating. Here's how to start using body language to improve your day-to-day communications and, more importantly, to improve your quality of life.

Steps

  1. Be natural. It's easy to find big lists of what certain gestures mean, and entire dictionaries have been written that attempt to decipher the meaning of every posture, blink of the eye, or muscle twitch. The meanings of signals differ from one person to the next, however, and there are vast cultural differences, as well. What's more, it is not possible to control all your muscles so that each gesture and facial expression delivers the meaning you want it to deliver. Even if you were to succeed in controlling your body language "by the book," you would look fake.
  2. , goodbye, or stop?]]Identify your own body language patterns. People spend a lot of time looking at your body language. What are they seeing? Make a conscious effort to think about what your body is doing in different interactions with different people. A mirror can be useful to examine facial expressions and posture, but mainly you just want to pay attention to what your body does when you're angry, nervous, happy, etc.
    • Determine whether your body language is in sync with your message. Your body language is effective if it communicates the message you want it to communicate. Does your posture communicate confidence, or does it make you seem unsure of yourself even as your words express confidence? If your non-verbal signals match your words, you'll not only communicate more clearly, you'll also be perceived as being more charismatic.
    • Look at the big picture. Don't stay awake at night wondering if your right index finger is effectively communicating your approval of something. Different parts of your body work together to communicate meaning in "message clusters," and generally the more strongly you feel about what you're talking about the more parts of the body are actively communicating. You don't have to have every little nuance "correct" as long as the overall effect of the cluster is in sync with your message.
  3. Correct the big problems. If you take away one thing from this article, it should be that body language should be natural, and you don't need to obsess over it. That said, there are certain situations that may merit "relearning" certain aspects of your body language.
    • ]]If you give persistent, very obvious counterproductive signals, it may be worth your time to fix them. For example, if you're constantly hunched over or touching your face, you'll never look confident, approachable, or at ease. Improving your posture and working to eliminate nervous tics can be difficult and will take time, but if you focus your efforts only on the big things, you'll quickly improve your overall non-verbal communication.
    • If you have recently entered a new culture, you may need to adjust your body language. Cultural norms regarding body language (i.e. how far away you should stand from someone, how much eye contact you should make, and what gestures are considered taboo), vary considerably, and if you don't speak the same body language as the locals, you're liable to be misunderstood a great deal, sometimes with very serious implications.
    • Concentrate on difficult situations. Most of our day-to-day interactions are with people we know fairly well. As people get to know you better, they become better at reading your body language, which means (for better or for worse) that they're less likely to misinterpret your non-verbal cues. With this in mind, then, it's most important to make sure your body language is clear in interactions with people you don't know very well. These situations (first dates or job interviews, for example) may merit some special attention. Get in front of a mirror and practice these interactions. Speak aloud as you normally would, and carefully watch what your body is doing. Even better, videotape yourself for several minutes and then watch the video to identify how you might present yourself better.
  4. Have more than one gesture to "get the message across." If you want to make sure you're not misunderstood, repeat both gestures when you speak the idea aloud. If the listener doesn't pick up on one gesture, he or she will likely be familiar with the other. You don't have to use a body language gesture (or two) for every word, but it's a good idea to have a toolbox of gestures you can use to reinforce very important, but easily misinterpreted, concepts.
  5. Direct the most positive gestures toward the listener. This way you more clearly indicate that you are offering a favorable outcome to the listener as though it were a gift to them. Direct the most negative gestures away from yourself and the listener. This way you clearly indicate that you wish that no obstacle stands in the way of your intended message.
  6. Say what you mean. For most people, appropriate body language--that is, body language that effectively reinforces the speaker's meaning--comes naturally when they mean what they say. The problem, of course, is that we don't always say what we mean. If you're trying to lie convincingly, for example, you'll probably have to alter your body language to prevent it from arousing suspicion. Even when we're not trying to deceive we may not really be saying what we feel. If your boyfriend or girlfriend asks if you love him or her, you may think you do but also think you don't; the mixed feelings may come out in a mixed message, in which your words say "yes," but your body language portrays your doubt. While much is said about changing your body language to communicate what you want to say, it's often easier to just say what you feel.
  7. Use your body language to help you understand how you feel. If you're not quite sure how you feel about something or someone, pay attention to what your body is saying. Just as other people can read your body language to help uncover what you're feeling, you can learn from your body, and, for the most part, you should be able to read your body language better than anyone else can--all you have to do is pay attention. Using body language effectively means not only communicating with others, but also learning more about yourself.
  8. Treat the cause, not the symptoms. Body language is very useful as a self-improvement tool, because it can clue us into our own feelings: our strengths, our fears, our hopes, our instincts. There's a multi-million dollar industry filled with people who will tell you how to position your torso and move your eyes in order to look more confident around members of the opposite sex or to seem more competent at work, but the usefulness of such instruction is limited. Even with dedicated practice, body language is hard to convincingly fake. Even if you manage to use your non-verbal cues to communicate feelings you don't really feel, you may, in the end, discover that you are only fooling yourself. It's better to gain control of the emotions at the root of your body language.

Tips

  • One way to work on developing your own system is to study sign-language, and then use similar symbols when actually speaking once in a while.
  • It is sometimes useful to observe the body language that is appropriate for a given setting or among certain people, and then match your gestures to those of people around you. This sort of imitation may be considered uncharismatic, but if you're not familiar with the culture or with the people with whom you are speaking, it may be the only way to get your message across or to avoid an embarrassing gaffe.
  • Use the most positive (or, if warranted, negative) gestures and facial expressions first and last. While it is true that we make our most memorable impressions within the first 5 to 10 seconds, we also make a crucial impression within the last 5 to 10 seconds as well.
  • Once in a while use the opposite gesture of your intended meaning. This is not meant to confuse the listener, but rather to see how well they pay attention to your gestures. If they notice it, consciously or not, they may say something like "Wait a minute, let me make sure I am understanding you."
  • Tone of voice and inflection, although audible, are great indicators of meaning. However the actual tones used between people may not be accurately interpreted by the listener. Be careful to not misinterpret another person's tone of voice.
  • If you know you are using a sign that may easily be misinterpreted, state so as quickly as possible and state your intended meaning, right away. For example, if you cross your arms for warmth, you may want to say, "I'm cold, are you?" That way the person won't think that you're just being unreceptive.
  • Be honest and non-judgemental. Speech and gestures are co-expressive - if you say what you mean, your body language will follow.
  • Do not try to read too much into a stranger's body language. It makes them uncomfortable and may give the semblance of you judging them.

Warnings

  • Not everyone uses the same gestures to convey the same meaning. For example in the US feet spread apart typically conveys the message "I am calm, but standing my ground." In Japan to convey this meaning the feet would typically be together, with the hands directly at the sides.
  • People's usage of body language can and usually does change over time.
  • Understand that people are liable to misinterpret your body language. Always try to be clear, and try to reinforce your meaning.
  • Do not assume that you have correctly identified the meaning of another person's body language without verification. For example, many people believe that if a person's arms are crossed it means that they are distancing themselves. Perhaps they are simply cold!
  • Faking a gesture or facial feature to convey a meaning is the same as lying, and it can be interpreted this way. When people say that someone seems phony, they're usually referring to mannerisms that seem faked.

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