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The first secret about body language is that much of it is about getting sex 

-- or defending against it. In the ancient past, the most important biological purpose in

life was to find a mate to help pass on the parent's genes in offspring. Most humans and

animals have a powerful drive to find a mate for sex because it feels super-fantastic!

Unconscious body language often reveals a person hunting for a mate and sex. Background

Discover More . . .

Here is one example of a man's posture emphasizing his sexuality. When casually standing

like this, he will usually directly face the woman who appeals to him. Notice that the

fingers all point to "you-know-what-is-important" to this guy: Sex! Of course, guys claim

that this is just a comfortable way to stand.
Yah, sure it is -- NOT!

Here at the right is one way women call attention to their sexuality with their body

language. It is quite obvious that this woman is unconsciously advertising to the world

that she is a healthy woman. This woman's body language could not be more clear and simple!

She is unconsciously saying, "My womb is empty and available." This is very deep, old brain

limbic system-driven body language programmed by the DNA from our ancient ancestors. This

ancient part of the brain functions in very basic ways, driving us to find a mate. This

drive is handled differently in men and women. Background Discover More . . .

Nearly every sperm-producing animal and human male must expend much time and effort in

convincing the female to accept him and his sperm. This has forced most males, both animals

and humans, to initiate a process called "courtship". Animal and human courtship is done in

many different ways. Some male birds, whales and gibbons "sing". Some birds dance or build

special nests to attract a female. Human males have been very innovative in countless ways

to attract a mate through courting.

Human courtship usually starts as flirting and dating. This courting ritual normally

involves joint activities to close the physical and emotional distance, so two people can

become one loving couple. How this courting is done varies widely throughout cultures and

in individuals. Background Learn More . . .

Why Men and Women Are Different (Surprise!)
Women generally have a drive to get the same good physical sexual feelings that men want.

However, before birth control methods, women had to prepare more than men for sex because

of the huge job of possible pregnancy and raising the offspring. Therefore historically

women have handled getting sex differently than men.

Throughout history, women with the most success in raising healthy and intelligent

offspring selected a good mate who helped in all aspects of family building over the long

term. In the long run, this careful selection process has been good for the species. A

woman's wise choice of a mate who sticks around and helps raise the babies gives the best

chance to produce healthy offspring that survive.

On the other hand, single men generally have little investment and risk in spontaneous sex.

They can come and go without further commitments. This is very different from the woman's

standpoint! Men are driven by millions of years of their ancestors' genes compelling them

to breed frequently and with numerous women in order to have the best chance for offspring

bearing their genes. Here lies the big difference between men and women.
Secret #2:
Women have a strong drive for seeking a QUALITY RELATIONSHIP with one man who will stick

around and take care of her and the kids after sex. This comes from ancient female

ancestors' most successful strategy for producing offspring.

Men want QUANTITY: lots of sex and with lots of women! Men's ancient ancestors developed

endurance and went for high amounts of sex as their most successful strategy for producing

offspring.

In spite of all the social, cultural, and religious obstacles for humans to get sex in only

an approved way today, couples are somehow joining and making babies. Fortunately, powerful

hormones evolved in humans to drive them through the difficult obstacles in order to come

together as a loving couple and produce offspring -- often even in unapproved ways. That

natural drive is what keeps the human species thriving on this planet.

Larry Rodrigues - http://www.learnbodylanguage.org

 

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How to Read Body Language

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Understanding body language is a skill that can enhance your life. You can know what a person thinks and feels by examining their subconscious body language. This article will help hone this social advantage you can gain over people in your life. You must watch from head to toe to see their actions.

Steps

  1. Gauge how close someone is to you. The closer they are, the warmer their opinions are of you. The farther away that someone is, the less they care. It is worth noting that personal space is culturally fluid; keep in mind that what is considered close in one country is far away in another.
  2. Watch their head position.
    • Overly tilted heads are either a potential sign of sympathy, or if a man smiles while tilting his head, he is flirting. Alternatively, the person is trying to convince you of their honesty.
    • Lowered heads indicate a reason to hide something. Take note if someone lowers their head. If it is when he is complimented, he may be shy, ashamed, timid, keeping distance from the other person, in disbelief, or thinking to himself. If it is after an explanation, then he may be unsure if what he said was correct.
      • It should be noted that some cultures see this as a sign of respect.
    • Cocked heads mean that they are confused or challenging you, depending on eye, eyebrow, and mouth gestures.
  3. Look into their eyes.
    • Liars will consecutively look at you and look away a number of times. You can actually learn specifically how to observe behavior to judge whether someone is lying. However, some liars will make more eye contact than usual in an attempt to make you believe they are telling you the truth.
    • People who look away while supposedly listening to you are thinking about something else. This is why when you are talking to a group of people, if an item in conversation strikes the one looking away, they will ask for you to repeat the story. You can usually tell if a person is remembering something or making something up based on their eye's movements. When someone is remembering details, their eyes move to the right (your right). When someone is making something up, their eyes move to the left. It's usually reversed for lefties.
    • Some cultures believe that looking at someone in the eyes is a sign of disrespect.
    • Auditory learners may look from side-to-side and repeat phrases in an effort to retain information.
    • Dilated pupils mean that the person is interested. Keep in mind, however, that many drugs cause pupils to dilate, including alcohol, cocaine, amphetamines, MDMA, LSD and others. Don't mistake having a few drinks for attraction. Also, some people have permanently dilated pupils (a condition known as mydriasis).
    • Looking to the side means that the person feels guilty.
    • When you ask somebody where they were, look very carefully at the way they look. If they look to the right( for right handers) they are recalling an event or a memory, meaning that they are telling the truth. However, if they look to the left they are making something up (this is why people look to the left when they are daydreaming, but to the right when they are remembering). It is exactly the opposite if someone is left handed. Sometimes a person might look up and move their lips to the side. That means they are thinking. Especially if you are interrogating, look out for people doing this when they try to give an alibi.
  4. See if they're mirroring you. Mirroring is another common gesture. If someone mirrors, or mimics your appearance, this is a very genuine sign that they are interested in you.
  5. Check their arms.
    • People with crossed arms are closing themselves to social influence. The worst thing that you can do to people with crossed arms is to challenge them in one way or another, no matter how they react. This annoys them. Though some people just cross their arms as a habit, it may indicate that the person is (slightly) reserved, uncomfortable with their weight (therefore trying to hide it), or just trying to hide something on their shirt.
    • If someone rests their arms behind their neck, they are open to what is being discussed and interested in listening more. They may be waiting to state their opinion on the matter.
    • Look at the location of their hands. If their hands are in their pockets, then they are more relaxed and are more likely to be attracted to you.
  6. Be aware of nervous gestures:
    • If someone brushes their hair back with their fingers, this may be preening, a common gesture if the person likes you, or their thoughts about something conflict with yours. They might not voice this. If you see raised eyebrows during this time, you can be pretty sure that they disagree with you.
    • If the person wears glasses, and is constantly pushing them up onto their nose again, with a slight frown, that may also indicate they disagree with what you are saying. Look to make sure they push up their glasses with an intent, not casually adjusting them. Look for pushing on the rim with two fingers, or an extra motion of wiggling the side of their glasses. The frown or raised eyebrows should tip you off.
    • If they are playing or fiddling with their hair (a girl may twirl a lock of her tresses around a finger), they are feeling self-conscious, flirting, or possibly uncomfortable.
    • If someone is biting their lip, they are anticipating something or holding back. Or it could just be out of habit.
    • Lowered eyebrows and squinted eyes illustrate an attempt at understanding what is being said or going on. It's usually skeptical. (Or maybe they have a problem seeing things e.g. short-sightedness, astigmatism...)
  7. Watch their feet:
    • A fast tapping, shifting of weight, or movement of the foot will most often mean that the person is impatient, excited, nervous, scared, or intimidated.
    • Slowly shifting weight usually means that someone is distracted, uncomfortable, or bored.

Tips

  • If people mimic you or your tone and pace of talking they usually like you, and are comfortable with you.
  • It's easy to spot a confident person; they will make prolonged eye contact and have a strong posture. Long eye contact can also be found in lover's eye's. Those not in love will be at an equilibrium of social stature. A bond of equals.
  • If people laugh excessively, it may be dishonest, or they just might be very naturally jovial, or happy. Use your best judgment. Some people laugh out of nervousness. The person may be trying to give you any excuse to look up if you are looking down then when you do look up smile.
  • Don't isolate yourself by constantly examining body language when interacting with people. Otherwise, there is no reason to gain a social upper hand anyway. This is paralysis by analysis.
  • Watch the face, it will usually give off a quick involuntary and sometimes subconscious twitch when something happens that irritates, excites, or amuses them.
  • Try not to judge the person, everyone shows multiple sides of themselves to different people. a person who has not decided to open up to you will act differently than someone who has (a close friend).

Warnings

  • To be fully competent in such an art/science takes years of analytical study. There are always exceptions to the rule.
  • Understanding the equilibrium between attentiveness to body language and verbal language is very important to being a successful communicator.

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“Character is doing the right thing when nobody’s looking.  There are too many people who think that the only thing that’s right is to get by, and the only thing that’s wrong is to get caught.”
J.C. Watts

“Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world.”
George Bernard Shaw

“Goodness is the only investment that never fails.”
Henry David Thoreau

One of the most powerful things you can do for yourself and your world is doing what you feel deep down is the right thing.

What is the right thing? Well, that is up to you. Often you have a little voice in your head that tells what the right thing is. Or a gut feeling.

Here are a few suggestions though:

  • Being kind instead of being judgmental/ trying to put someone down to feel better about yourself.
  • Eating a healthy meal and then going to the gym instead of lying on the couch eating chips and watching TV.
  • Doing the dishes and other chores instead of slacking off.
  • Putting a stop to feeling like a victim with everything against you and instead looking at the opportunities and taking action.

It isn’t always easy. So I use these win/win-reasons to motivate myself to do the right thing. If you know why you are doing something and how it benefits you and the people around you then it becomes easier to do. And over time you can become more and more consistent with it.

1. You raise your self esteem.

When you don’t do the right thing you are not only sending out signals out into your world. You are also sending signals to yourself. When you don’t do the right thing you don’t feel good about yourself. You may experience emptiness or get stuck in negative thought loops. It’s like you are letting yourself down. You are telling yourself that you can’t handle doing the right thing. To not do the right thing is a bit like punching yourself in the stomach.

But the more you do the right thing on a consistent basis the more you tend to like yourself. Your esteem of yourself goes up.

This is also a cure to the often common habit of being a validation/approval junkie. That’s when you do things to get people to like you, compliment you etc. You want to feel good about yourself so you try to get other people to give you those feelings.

Now, there’s nothing wrong with getting positive feelings from other people as an extra bonus. But if you have no inner spring of positive feelings about yourself at all then life becomes a rollercoaster of positive and negative emotions. Everyone around you control how you feel and may also wield a big influence over how you think.

By doing the right thing you create that inner spring of validation and positive emotions. You become steadier, calmer and more centred.

2. It feels really good.

One of the simplest ways to create positive feelings within and maintaining them in a steady way is to do the right thing throughout your day. This of course starts a positive upward spiral of positivity not only within you but around you as positive feelings are highly contagious.

3. You get great results.

By doing what you feel is the right thing you focus on creating a better outside and inside while at the same time you cut out less relevant stuff from your inner and outer life.

So you become more focused on doing that is most important to you.

And as with anything you tend to get what you give. When you give value to people, when you help them then they will often want to help you and give you value in some form. Not everyone will do it but many will. Not always right away but somewhere down the line. Things tend to even out.

But most people wait for the other person to do something positive first. Don’t get stuck in that wait that just causes frustration. Be proactive, create a habit of taking the first step, put in the extra effort and you tend to get good stuff back. Don’t do it and you tend to get less good stuff back from the world.

4. Deservedness.

I believe this may be one benefit of doing the right thing that people often forget about. Because is it just enough to get motivated and take action to get what you want?

Maybe. But if you deep down don’t really think you deserve what you go after then you will tend to sabotage for yourself. Perhaps in subtle ways. You may get a gut feeling that this success is wrong and so you start doing stuff that screws things up.

So how do you make yourself feel like you deserve something? Well, you may do affirmations or some other exercise to make yourself feel better about yourself. But I think that what is most potent for your mind is actual proof. When you do the right thing over and over you tell your mind that you are indeed a good person.

And slowly it starts to accept that this is indeed the new truth about you.

The feelings of deservedness are also essential to maintaining a new self image.

When you try to make a big change in your life and make it stick then in some way your self image needs to be changed. You need to start seeing yourself as a healthy and fit person for example instead of couch potato or you will easily slip back into your old habits once again.

Doing the right thing not only in the health area of your life but also for example your work and relationships provides your mind with a ton of proof that you are someone who deserves what s/he want.

Just from my own experience I have found that if I have a day when I do nothing right then it is very easy slip back into old thought patterns. But by doing the right thing in many areas I tend to rarely slip back into old and more negative behavior and thoughts. I become steadier in my new, more positive self image.

 

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100 Amazing Things You Never Knew About Your Body

You think you’re learning everything you can in your biology and anthropology classes, but textbook editors simply don’t have all the space they need to give you the full story of your body. Some of the facts below are trivial, some are ancient history, and some of them may very well save your life one day. So read up, and enjoy this wild and whacky anatomical analysis.

Unusual Facts

You’ll probably wonder why you never heard these cool facts in biology class before. From hangover cures to exploding head syndrome, these tidbits are must-knows.

  1. Every person has a unique tongue print:…just like our fingers!
  2. Eating fruits and vegetables may help the human body make its own aspirin: People who intake benzoic acid, a natural substance in fruits and vegetables, make their own salicylic acid, the key component that gives aspirin its anti-inflammatory and pain-relieving properties.
  3. Baking soda can whiten teeth, garlic can help treat athlete’s foot, and honey can soothe a hangover.
  4. Facebook may be good for your health: Studies show that staying in touch with family and friends can ward off memory loss and help you live longer.
  5. Exploding head syndrome is real (but rare): The American Sleep Association explains that a person with exploding head syndrome experiences a loud, indecipherable noise that seems to originate from inside the head.
  6. Regular exercise can lower a woman’s cancer risk, but only if she’s getting enough sleep: Check out the link to see what the National Cancer Institute has to say about this important fact.
  7. Body position affects memory: Memories are highly embodied in our senses. A scent or sound may evoke a distant episode from one’s childhood. The connections can be obvious (a bicycle bell makes you remember your old paper route) or inscrutable.
  8. Your bones can self-destruct: In addition to supporting the bag of organs and muscles that is our body, bones help regulate our calcium levels. If the element is in short supply, certain hormones will cause bones to break down, upping calcium levels in the body until the appropriate extracellular concentration is reached.
  9. Your brain has a huge appetite: Though it makes up only 2 percent of our total body weight, the brain demands 20 percent of the body’s oxygen and calories.
  10. Puberty reshapes the brain: Why is adolescence so emotionally unpleasant? Hormones like testosterone actually influence the development of neurons in the brain, and the changes made to brain structure have many behavioral consequences. Expect emotional awkwardness, apathy and poor decision-making skills as regions in the frontal cortex mature.

All About…Weight

Here are some great facts you should definitely know about how your body metabolizes and stores fat.

  1. Weight really is genetic: But, a genetic predisposition isn’t necessarily a life sentence, experts say. Exercising regularly can offset the risk of obesity.
  2. Some people just have more fat cells: While you can’t reduce your total number of fat cells, there are things you can do to keep them small. (See next point.)
  3. You can change your metabolism: Gaining as little as 11 pounds can slow metabolism and send you spiraling into a vicious cycle: As you gain more fat, it becomes harder to lose it. But, scientists say physical activity can raise your metabolism back up to fat-blasting levels.
  4. Stress fattens you up: The most direct route is the food-in-mouth syndrome: Stressful circumstances (your bank account, your boss) spark cravings for carbohydrate-rich snack foods, which in turn calm stress hormones.
  5. Your mom’s pregnancy sealed your fate: Science says sugary and fatty foods, consumed even before you’re born, can wreak havoc on your future relationship  with fat.
  6. Sleep more, lose more: University of Chicago researchers reported that sleep deprivation upsets our hormone balance, triggering both a decrease in leptin (which helps you feel full) and an increase of ghrelin (which triggers hunger).
  7. Your spouse’s weight matters: Research shows that weight gain and loss can be, well, contagious. A study in the New England Journal of Medicine suggests that if one spouse is obese, the other is 37 percent more likely to become obese too. The researchers concluded that obesity seems to spread through social networks.
  8. A virus can cause obesity: Adenoviruses are responsible for a host of ills, from upper respiratory tract problems to gastrointestinal troubles. It also seems to increase the number of fat cells in the body as well as the fat content of these cells.
  9. Cookies really are addictive: When subjects at Monell Chemical Senses Center in Philadelphia were shown the names of foods they liked, the parts of the brain that got excited were the same parts activated in drug addicts.
  10. Pick a diet, any diet: What really matters is your ability to moderate your intake of food. Feel free to use your favorite full-fat salad dressing, but your lettuce shouldn’t be swimming in it. You can cut carbs, fats, or just calories in general.

All About…Your Heart

It’s a sad fact that heart disease is the number one killer in the United States; what most people don’t realize is how preventable it is. Learn these facts, then do your part to protect your heart.

  1. Laughter is therapeutic: Watching a funny movie for even 15 minutes can increase your blood flow. Remember to laugh every day—it can keep your heart happy and healthy.
  2. Chest pain isn’t the only sign of a heart attack: Symptoms for most heart attacks include mild chest pain, some shoulder discomfort, or shortness of breath. Other signs can be nausea, lightheadedness, or breaking out in a cold sweat
  3. If you’re over 20, you should know your cholesterol level: If it’s high, there are treatments (including medication and exercises) that can help. You should also get your blood pressure and your blood sugar levels checked regularly.
  4. Obesity often leads to type 2 diabetes: Research has shown that eating more fruits, vegetables, and fiber can actually change the blood’s sensitivity to insulin within as little as two weeks.
  5. Walking can save your life: A recent study found that a sedentary 40-year-old woman who begins walking briskly half an hour a day, four days a week, can enjoy almost the same low risk of heart attack as a woman who has exercised regularly her entire life.
  6. Children can suffer from hypertension, too: About five out of every 100 children have higher than normal blood pressure.

You Have Super Powers!

Believe it or not, we’ve all got a little Clark Kent in us somewhere!

  1. Super strength: Your fight-or-flight capacities point toward fighting, you can do the things you’ve heard of in the news, like lift cars off of your loved ones or push 600-pound boulders out of your way.
  2. Supersonic hearing: Echolocation–it’s the way people with visual impairment continue to do amazing things. A prime example of this hidden sensory super power is Daniel Kish, a mountain biker who has been completely blind his whole life. He bikes better and faster than most people with vision, all by using sound to mentally paint a picture of the world around him. He does it so fast he can avoid trees, boulders and bears while speeding down the side of a mountain.
  3. Super memory: Your brain technically has the ability to store every single thing you’ve ever seen or heard or experienced.
  4. Super pain threshold: In moments of shock and trauma, your brain flips off pain like a switch. Ask somebody like Amy Racina, who fell off a cliff, landing six stories below, shattering her knee and breaking her hip. Not feeling more than minor pain, even with broken bone jutting out from her skin, she dragged herself until she found help. It was only at the point when she was being loaded safely into a helicopter that the pain returned.
  5. Time manipulation: How fast time moves for you is literally all in your head. Experts say it’s because your brain has two modes of experiencing the world, rational and experiential. Read more about these modes and how they could save your life.

All About…Skin

These fantastic (but not-so-appetizing) facts will have you thinking twice every time you look in the mirror.

  1. Weight game: An average adult’s skin spans 21 square feet, weighs nine pounds, and contains more than 11 miles of blood vessels.
  2. Sweating like a…human: The skin releases as much as three gallons of sweat a day in hot weather. The areas that don’t sweat are the nail bed, the margins of the lips, the tip of the penis, and the eardrums.
  3. Take a bath: Body odor comes from a second kind of sweat— a fatty secretion produced by the apocrine sweat glands. The odor is caused by bacteria on the skin eating and digesting those fatty compounds.
  4. The perfect crime: Some people never develop fingerprints at all. Two rare genetic defects, known as Naegeli syndrome and dermatopathia pigmentosa reticularis, can leave carriers without any identifying ridges on their skin.
  5. Hold your breath: Globally, dead skin accounts for about a billion tons of dust in the atmosphere. Your skin sheds 50,000 cells every minute.
  6. It can see: In blind people, the brain’s visual cortex is rewired to respond to stimuli received through touch and hearing, so they literally "see" the world by touch and sound.
  7. Master race, my melanin!: White skin appeared just 20,000 to 50,000 years ago, as dark-skinned humans migrated to colder climes and lost much of their melanin pigment.
  8. You see very, very white people: Albinos are often cast as movie villains, as seen in The Da Vinci Code, Die Another Day, The Matrix Reloaded, and—inexplicably—the 2001 flick Josie and the Pussycats. Robert Lima of Penn State suggests that people associate pale-skinned albinos with vampires and other mythical creatures of the night.
  9. Who needs keys?: More than 2,000 people have radio frequency identification chips, or RFID tags, inserted under their skin. The tags can provide access to medical information, log on to computers, or unlock car doors.
  10. You’re reading what?!: The Cleveland Public Library, Harvard Law School, and Brown University all have books clad in skin stripped from executed criminals or from the poor.

All About…Hygiene

Throughout history, humans have evolved to become cleaner, healthier, and fresher-smelling beings, but we’re certainly not sterile. These somewhat-disturbing (but very interesting) hygenic truths might have you showering more often than ever before.

  1. We’re really dirty: The human body is home to some 1,000 species of bacteria. There are more germs on your body than people in the United States.
  2. Be careful what you wash with: Antibacterial soap is no more effective at preventing infection than regular soap, and triclosan (the active ingredient) can mess with your sex hormones.
  3. Pee like an Egyptian: Ancient Egyptians and Aztecs rubbed urine on their skin to treat cuts and burns. Urea, a key chemical in urine, is known to kill fungi and bacteria.
  4. You might want to skip the fountain drink: There are more bacteria in ice machines at fast-food restaurants than in toilet bowl water.
  5. Floor food isn’t good: There’s no “five-second rule” when it comes to dropping food on the ground. Bacteria need no time at all to contaminate food.
  6. TV can kill: TV remotes spread antibiotic-resistant Staphylococcus, which contributes to the 90,000 annual deaths from infection acquired in hospitals.
  7. Make sure your doctor washes his hands: It is now believed President James Garfield died not from the bullet fired by Charles Guiteau but because the medical team treated the president with manure-stained hands, causing a severe infection that killed him three months later.
  8. Mount Soapo: Soap gets its name from the mythological Mount Sapo. Fat and wood ash from animal sacrifices there washed into the Tiber River, creating a rudimentary cleaning agent that aided women doing their washing.
  9. Sorry, Mom: Up to a quarter of all women giving birth in European and American hospitals in the 17th through 19th centuries died of puerperal fever, an infection spread by unhygienic nurses and doctors.
  10. Don’t forget to floss: The first true toothbrush, consisting of Siberian pig hair bristles wired into carved cattle-bone handles, was invented in China in 1498. But tooth brushing didn’t become routine in the United States until it was enforced on soldiers during World War II.

All About…Sex and Gender

Click on these links, and you’ll get a whole new take on gender, sexuality, and the complexity of human relationships.

  1. What were they waiting for?: Life emerged on earth about 3.8 billion years ago, but sex did not evolve until more than 2 billion years later.
  2. Why does it take two?: Scientists are not sure, since asexual reproduction is a better evolutionary strategy in some important ways.
  3. Better for your liver than tylenol: Sex cures headaches. Endorphins released into our bloodstream when we have sex not only give us pleasure but also act as painkillers.
  4. Coo-coo for cocoa: 70% of women would rather eat choclate than have sex.
  5. Staying alive: Sex wards off heart attacks. Frequent sexual intercourse (twice or more per week) lowers your chance of a fatal heart attack.
  6. It’s actually a cure-all: It also decreases pain from menstrual cramps and arthritis. It increases levels of endorphins and corticosteroids, raising pain thresholds.
  7. Calm yourself: Sex reduces stress, so try to make time for it at least a few times a week.
  8. What’s love got to do with it?: Sexual arousal and romantic love activate quite distinct areas of the brain—and love is clearly the more powerful. The latter turns on dopamine-rich regions linked with motivation, and falling in love is not unlike the rush of taking cocaine, hence the addictiveness of a new crush, and the withdrawal-like symptoms of love lost.
  9. Curious?: Recent research suggests women may be “intrinsically bisexual,” and the higher their libido, the more they desire both sexes.
  10. Asexuality 101: One percent of adults have zero interest in sex and have never felt sexually attracted to anyone at all.

All About…Mental Health

Mental health and sickness is a big part of being human. Though it’s been looked at and discussed with ridicule in previous generations, today’s world should know these important facts about human psychology and psychiatry.

  1. Mental illness is more common than you think: The National Institute of Mental Health reports that One in four adults-approximately 57.7 million Americans-experience a mental health disorder in a given year.
  2. Adults aren’t the only ones who suffer: The U.S. Surgeon General reports that 10 percent of children and adolescents in the United States suffer from serious emotional and mental disorders that cause significant functional impairment in their day-to-day lives at home, in school and with peers.
  3. Mental illness strikes young: Mental illness usually strike individuals in the prime of their lives, often during adolescence and young adulthood. All ages are susceptible, but the young and the old are especially vulnerable.
  4. It’s expensive: The economic cost of untreated mental illness is more than 100 billion dollars each year in the United States.
  5. It’s treatable: Most people who live with serious mental illnesses can significantly reduce the impact of their illness and find a satisfying measure of achievement and independence.
  6. Act fast: Early identification is of vital importance to treatment.
  7. Don’t be bullied: Stigma erodes confidence that mental disorders are real, treatable health conditions.
  8. Bipolar disorder is blind to gender: Over 10 million people in America have bipolar disorder, and the illness affects men and women equally.
  9. Suicide is serious: Each year in the U.S., approximately 2 million U.S. adolescents attempt suicide, and almost 700,000 receive medical attention for their attempt.
  10. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) might be genetic: Many people with SAD report at least one close relative with a psychiatric condition, most frequently a severe depressive disorder (55 percent) or alcohol abuse (34 percent).

All About…Working Out

You already know how essential physical fitness is, and how important it is to take care of your body. But we’re willing to bet you didn’t know all of these bits of information about how to work out in a way that benefits you best.

  1. Incline builds muscle: Get off the flats and into the hills. Walking uphill makes you stronger.
  2. Treat your feet: Each step puts up to 1.5 times your body weight on your feet, which are shock absorbers that bear 60 tons of pressure every mile you travel.
  3. Lub-dub: The more fit you are, the harder it is to reach your target heart rate.
  4. Work it, girl: A 145-pound woman walking briskly (4 mph) burns 82 calories every 15 minutes.
  5. Getting back in: If you’ve taken off more than one month from exercising, give yourself at least four weeks to regain endurance and strength. Start slow, and increase your time, distance and intensity gradually, even if you were previously well-trained.
  6. Caffeine won’t kill: Despite popular thinking, caffeine doesn’t cause dehydration during exercise. In fact, the caffeine in a cup of tea or coffee improves speed and endurance.
  7. Change it up: Running on a circular track puts stress on the outside of your foot. Alternate the direction you run every other day or every five laps.
  8. Tums, anyone?: Strenuous exercise can cause acid reflux in healthy, conditioned athletes.
  9. Go shopping: Keep the spring in your step. Replace your running shoes every 300 to 400 miles.
  10. You’re not a camel: If you’re dehydrated even 5%, your metabolism can fall 20% to 30%. You’ll fire more easily and be irritable.

All about…Preventing Cancer

Cancer is the number two killer of people in the United States, but it doesn’t have to put you in the ground, too. Follow these healthy tips to treat your body to a longer, healthier life.

  1. Serve sauerkraut at your next picnic: The fermentation process involved in making sauerkraut produces several other cancer-fighting compounds, including ITCs, indoles, and sulforaphane. To reduce the sodium content, rinse canned or jarred sauerkraut before eating.
  2. Eat your fill of broccoli, but steam it rather than microwaving it: Broccoli is a cancer-preventing superfood, one you should eat frequently. But microwaving broccoli destroys 97 percent of the vegetable’s cancer-protective flavonoids.
  3. Toast some Brazil nuts and sprinkle over your salad: They’re a rich form of selenium, a trace mineral that convinces cancer cells to commit suicide and helps cells repair their DNA.
  4. Add garlic to everything you eat: Garlic contains sulfur compounds that may stimulate the immune system’s natural defenses against cancer, and may have the potential to reduce tumor growth. Studies suggest that garlic can reduce the incidence of stomach cancer by as much as a factor of 12!
  5. Eat cantaloupe: Cantaloupe is a great source of carotenoids, plant chemicals shown to significantly reduce the risk of lung cancer.
  6. Drink water: The amount of water women drink correlates to their risk of colon cancer, with heavy water drinkers reducing their risk up to 45 percent.
  7. Get about 15 minutes of sunlight each day: Getting too little vitamin D may increase your risk of multiple cancers, including breast, colon, prostate, ovarian, and stomach, as well as osteoporosis, diabetes, multiple sclerosis, and high blood pressure.
  8. Sprinkle scallions over your salad: A diet high in onions may reduce the risk of prostate cancer 50 percent. But the effects are strongest when they’re eaten raw or lightly cooked.
  9. Make a batch of fresh lemonade or limeade: A daily dose of citrus fruits may cut the risk of mouth, throat, and stomach cancers by half, Australian researchers found.
  10. Take advantage of your friends and family (they won’t mind): Men with high levels of stress and those with less satisfying contacts with friends and family members had higher levels of prostate-specific antigen (PSA) in their blood, a marker for the development of prostate cancer.

Weird Parts We Don’t Need

Evolution has gotten us pretty far, from our apelike ancestors to the upright walking, talking, complex thinking creatures we are today. But along the way, it left behind some traces of our previous forms, like extrinsic ear muscles and tail bones.

  1. Vomeronasal organ: A tiny pit on each side of the septum is lined with nonfunctioning chemoreceptors. They may be all that remains of a once extensive pheromone-detecting ability.
  2. Wisdom teeth: Early humans had to chew a lot of plants to get enough calories to survive, making another row of molars helpful. Only about 5 percent of the population has a healthy set of these third molars.
  3. Third eyelid: A common ancestor of birds and mammals may have had a membrane for protecting the eye and sweeping out debris. Humans retain only a tiny fold in the inner corner of the eye.
  4. Male Nipples: Lactiferous ducts form well before testosterone causes sex differentiation in a fetus. Men have mammary tissue that can be stimulated to produce milk.
  5. Body hair: Brows help keep sweat from the eyes, and male facial hair may play a role in sexual selection, but apparently most of the hair left on the human body serves no function.
  6. Female vas deferens: What might become sperm ducts in males become the epoophoron in females, a cluster of useless dead-end tubules near the ovaries.
  7. Fifth toe: Lesser apes use all their toes for grasping or clinging to branches. Humans need mainly the big toe for balance while walking upright.
  8. Coccyx: These fused vertebrae are all that’s left of the tail that most mammals still use for balance and communication. Our hominid ancestors lost the need for a tail before they began walking upright.
  9. Thirteenth Rib: Our closest cousins, chimpanzees and gorillas, have an extra set of ribs. Most of us have 12, but 8 percent of adults have the extras.
  10. Extrinsic ear muscles: This trio of muscles most likely made it possible for prehominids to move their ears independently of their heads, as rabbits and dogs do. We still have them, which is why most people can learn to wiggle their ears.

Reprinted courtesy of Amber Johnson

 
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Besides observing gross body postures and movements, the eyes can detect tiny cha

nges in the bodies of others. Laboratory instrumentation has shown that some of these slight changes are detected at the subconscious level and affect blood flow related to sexual arousal. Here are some of the subtle changes the eyes can detect. 
Changes in skin tone and texture due to blood flow changes when emotions fluctuate. 
Changes in eye pupil size as interest peaks and wanes. 
Tensioning and release of tiny muscles in the face and scalp from emotional changes. 
Eye angle changes (even at a distance) as one diverts attention away or on something. 
The precision timing of eye contact indicating interest, disinterest, or intimidation. 

These slight body changes in others alert us to how they are feeling about us from moment to moment. 
Eyes are important for mate selection

Compared to the primates, only humans have a white area around the center colored portion of their eye. And eventhough the male eye is slightly larger than the female eye, the female eye has a higher proportion of white showing. Women interested in attracting men's attention will do well to use wide-eyed and darting eye movements to flash as much eye white area as often as possible. Men are attracted to that! 

Men are attracted to young healthy women because they have the best success in producing healthy offspring. Bright, white areas in a woman's eyes plus long, thick eye lashes are excellent indicators of female good health. Women know how their eye contact can activate men's hormones and interest. Therefore women are very careful to avoid eye contact with men in public - unless the women want attention. If a woman wants attention from a man, she knows eye contact (plus a little smile) is one of the fastest ways to get it. 

One of the important considerations for men choosing a mate is the female's age. Age difference is not as important to women, but men in all cultures prefer young women. Over eons this selection criteria by men has been to their advantage for producing the maximum number of healthy offspring. Young women have the least chromosome damage and therefore have the best chance in producing healthy babies. 

An unconscious cue men use to recognize youth in a woman is the size of her ears compared to the size of her eyes. 
The ears and nose continue to grow constantly as we age but the eye size remains nearly the same throughout life. Cartoonists know this and use it to make their characters appear young and appealing by drawing them with large eyes and small nose and ears. Women throughout history have also taken advantage of this fact and made themselves look younger by using makeup to increase the apparent size of their eyes. And for enough money, surgery can change the nose and ears to remove a decade or two.

At the right is a woman with her 95 year old ears. (The rest of her is also 95!) Compare her ear size with the much younger woman above. Older woman who wish to appear as young as possible may want to wear their hair long to cover their ears! 

Here is a flirting signal women often use during converstation with a man. As she speaks, she looks to her upper right side. This does two things. First, a large area of white is revealed indicating 'femaleness' and good health. Second, looking up to the right indicates she is thinking mental pictures about the FUTURE. That might raise his curiosity! He may wonder, "Is she picturing the same thing I am?" (Probably not!) 

If she looks up to her left (your right), this indicates she is thinking mental pictures about the PAST. (Maybe she is recalling last night!) 
These eye movement patterns are done naturally by nearly everyone who thinks with mental pictures. (Some small number of people think in sounds and some with feelings.) Of course if this looking up and to the right is an attention-getting flirting step, first it should be enhanced with an abundance of eye mascara, eye shadow and perfectly shaped healthy eye brows. This body language movement can greatly stimulate a man when done slowly and with a coy head tilt. It is an art form that the best flirters develop to a highly effective level. 

Our eyes are very expressive and send many body language messages in numerous ways. For example: 
Glistening eyes from extra tear duct secretion causes a twinkling and glittering look that indicates strong emotion. This could be either distress, short of crying or excitement such as passion, or triumph. 
Narrowing the eyes deliberately indicates anguish and distaste and may be used by directing it to another who is the source of that feeling. 
Glaring eyes are used to intimidate. This cue is also used by many animals. In males it may immediately trigger fight or flight responses accompanied with hormone release. 
Unfocused eyes mean a person's mind is wandering and not paying attention. Literally, they are not focused! 
Lowering the eyes indicates modesty or submission. This relates to the bow as a sign of respect to others or feeling of inferiority. 
A wink with the closed eye directed at a person implies a shared secret. When winking at an opposite sex stranger it implies you have undisclosed desire for them. 
Frequent blinking during conversation indicates high interest. Some women use a rapid flutter of their eyelashes to get a man's attention. 
Use your eyes to send the right message

Since the eyes are our most powerful body language message transmitters, here are some general rules about using your eyes: 
It is OK to look into the eyes of another person for longer periods of time than normal when you: 
Like or love them. 
Are far apart and trying to improve communication. 
Are deeply interested in what they are saying. 
Know they are extroverted and like being close. 
Are expecting an answer or response from someone. 
Are trying to dominate and intimidate someone. 

Because the eyes pass so much information to the brain each second, they are a powerful tool you can use to send powerful messages. One message you might want to send to someone you want to get intimate with is this: "I really want you to get closer to me emotionally and physically so much that I can't take my eyes off you." To send this message all you have to do is look into their eyes, with a soft gentle smile, and think that message silently while you hold the gaze. Yes, literally don't take your eyes off them! Now don't get too obnoxious! If they are not interested in you, they might call for help or tell you bluntly (and publically) to quit stalking them! However they may feel complimented by your interest in them, or think you have something to tell them like, "You have spinach in your teeth!" In any case they will be moved to speak to you to break the disconcerting gaze that they are not use to receiving. From here you are on your own to use your charm to get even closer.

 

Article published with kind permission of Lawrence Rodrigues -http://www.learnbodylanguage.org

 

 

 
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